The 'ER' Mentality

By Ebi Ashidi
We have a very short time left in 2016, so we've also made this a very short read. So don’t say you’ll read later, do it NOW.

It’s almost 2017 - and it’s only natural that we'd look back at the past year and pull out a few lessons from it; understand the places where we fell, why we fell and how we can avoid similar occurrences.

It’s also natural that we'd take into consideration our victories, the breathtaking bliss of that feeling of victory, and to plan out how we can multiply such victories in the coming year.


But... as great as all these things are, there's something I wouldn’t want to take into the next 365 days and I think it’s a bright idea for you to drop it down too. What I'm talking about is the ‘ER’ mentality.

So...what is the ER mentality? First off, er is a suffix. If you don’t know what a suffix is, kindly visit Mastering English or one of those books. Or use google like the rest of us. Moving on, now, there are several uses for the suffix "–er" the good and the bad.

It's mostly used for COMPARISON. Yes... that’s what this post is about. The apocalyptic, d-agonizing habit of comparing. He's bettER than I am at volleyball, I wish I had bettER eyebrows, life would’ve been more beautiful. She isn’t as smart, I can tell you that I'm smartER. Listen, comparison has its place in life. But what we really see most times is its ungodly use. And the effect on our psyche is catastrophic.

You have a friend that got engaged and you’re not yet engaged, what does that mean?

Consider the dog giving birth after 3 months and the elephant being pregnant for almost a year. It’ll be stupid for the elephant to compare itself with the dog, when it's growing inside it an earth shaker, and vice-versa.

Everybody’s timing isn’t the same.
Everybody’s way isn’t the same.
Everybody’s pace isn’t the same.

Comparison will always lead to complaint. Complaining would make you unhappy, and I'm taking a logical guess here, and saying in 2017 you don’t want to be unhappy a whole lot. At least I'm not in for that.

Things might not be moving for you at the same pace that it’s moving for others, but that doesn’t mean you’re behind. Everyone has a different make up, way up, destination and result. You might think you’re studying the same course or in the same profession but where you’ll end up, and how, wouldn't be the same.

Quit comparing in the New Year and start celebrating your success at YOUR pace - and see how much happier your life will be.

In 2017 make a decision to be #TeamNoPressure #TeamNoStress #TeamNoComparison

Be a wonderful you.
Have a wonderful New Year.



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