How To Choose Happiness: The Simple Things

"You can look ahead to happiness, and you can look back on it, but it's so hard to notice it to your left or right."

- Robert Brault

The simple things. Those are the things that really matter in the the end once you think about it.

Happiness is something we all dearly crave. Even as babies, the intrinsic yearning shows in the longing for comfort. Food. Warmth. Closeness. Peace. Love. The little things are all a baby requires to be happy. To have its eyes crinkle and shine, like stars dancing with joy.

"What ARE the simple things?" you may wonder. What do they do. In relation to its referring term the "simple things" are just that. Simple.

Love.

Air.

Light.

Now it might seem a bit ambiguous I know, but even as arbitrary concepts - if they're closely examined one would see the meaning behind the three.

One might argue that there are tons of things you would need to be happy.

Money.

Food.

Security.

Etc.

However the latter three concepts up above are the things which would,  in my opinion, rather - give you comfort than happiness.

Happiness is not comfort. And comfort is not happiness. You can find comfort and not be happy. But if you are happy - Truly happy, then you will ALWAYS find comfort in the end.

I'm not going to elaborate on any other concepts much here. I'll have separate articles for them some day and link them here or make them easy available. So anyways. ..

Love is the most important of the three concepts I mentioned earlier. I'm not specifically talking about requitted or shared love either. I'm talking about the LOVE IN YOU. The truth is, as long as you love others - even if they don't love you, you'll always be able to find happiness.

Let me just tell you a secret you already know. NOBODY, I repeat NOBODY, is responsible for your happiness but you. You could be given the world, but if you don't want it - then you still won't be happy.

Happiness with others stems from the fact that YOU love THEM. Comfort comes from them loving you. See the diff? You can be happy with others without them being happy with you. The most important thing is YOUR happiness remember? If they choose not to be happy then it's their fault, not yours. I mean even Jesus loved his haters. Given time even their** hate will fade and transform. Love conquers all remember? You cannot make someone happy with YOU if you are not happy with THEM.

People are mostly mirrors of others. If all they have coming to them is LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, then they'll have no choice but to reflect all that back. YOUR happiness matters if theirs does too. You must love them, and love them well, even if they do not love you.

Air. I know a lot of people might think I mean oxygen, and while I admit that it IS very important, that's not the only thing I'm referring to. I'm talking about space here (not outer space joor). Ever heard someone say "Gimme some air, will ya?" I'm sure you understood they didn't mean breathable oxygen in that case.

Individuality is something that is fought for so strongly the world over. Most especially by youths who want to be heard and express themselves. You don't need to e a teenager or even under 30 to want a little to air to be yourself. It's a necessary fundamental.

Space is important to release yourself. It's never good to be so involved and surrounded by others that, eventually, you begin to lose yourself in the crowd. Your personality. Your individuality. Your uniqueness. All gone because you had no air. The real you dies. What's left then after is naught but a shadow...

Nobody would or SHOULD want to be a shadow of their former self. There's nothing to be gained. Loss of anything good should never be classified as a gain.

Light. Once more I'm being abstract a little bit and not referring only to "photons" of electromagnetic energy and potential. In this case I mean HOPE. The hope that lies in your heart for the coming of a better day. That light you see at the end of the dark tunnel. That thing that keeps your faith held together, strong and gingered to enable you face another day.

That light does not always have to come from you. Who says light only comes from lanterns, torches or even the sun. But the important thing is that it banishes the darkness. The fear. The rage and anger. The despair and hopelessness.

It let's you see the "better day" . That day when things will be alright. You've heard it before. "Everything will be okay in the end. If its not okay - its not the end." 
You need light to see it. For without the light we ALL cannot see....

**N/B: All these things can be found in the bible. The part below is addressed to the Christians especially, however i equally encourage everyone and anyone to go on ahead and rad them up as well :)

Love. (Matthew 5:39, Matthew 12:31)

Air. (Jeremiah 1:5, Luke 5:16)

Light. (Jeremiah 29:11)

(These aren't the only bible verses you can find these at. They're just the ones that came to mind/spirit when I was writing this)

With Love, Air and Light? You can find ANYTHING*. Nothing is impossible for you. They will always help to find the "better day". These three things.They're not just the simple things. They're the simplest.**

Thanks for coming here :)

Love, Stars and Jam