Correct Me Not

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"Are you stupid? How could you throw it away?"

I've seen a lot of people abuse others (usually children) in the name of "correcting" them. I believe this loosely relates to the local common belief that whoever can shout the loudest, or beat the hardest is correct, or is the "winner". And in a society like ours, where age is more important than truth or fairness, there is little that younger people can do to "win" or correct their elders/superiors.

Honestly though, you should try to be careful and kind in how you correct people. Because your approach will absolutely influence their reception, as well as their future philosophies - and I mean people in general, not just children.

There are times when softer approaches will have the most success, and there are times when a harsher reproach is needed - usually only after several successive softer approaches have been tried. Most people add insults and scathing remarks when they attempt to "correct" or "teach" people, and this can usually end up defeating the purpose of the action in the first place. Let me give you and example.

There is a difference between the effect of saying;
"Why did you put that chair there, you stupid fool? This is why I beat you all the time! You don't have sense! Get away from there before I slap you again, Idiot"

And;
"Please don't keep that chair there. It would block the way, and could even trip someone. Do you understand?"

While the first approach is full of antagonism, anger and only really teaches FEAR, the second approach is emphasized around helping the person understand WHY what they did wrong, and WHY they should not do it again.

I'm sure we all remembered when we were young and got confused when our parents, or guardians punished us severely without explaining what we did wrong, or why we shouldn't do it again. Such an approach usually teaches people that since being caught brings punishment, and we don't have any good reason to stop - then we should be careful NOT TO BE CAUGHT; and not that we should be careful "NOT TO DO IT AGAIN".

APPROACH, and CONTENT is important in everyday interaction, and not simply just INTENT.

Correct me not, if you do not know how to.
Correct me well, if you do.


Thanks for reading.
Love, Stars, and Corrective hearts.


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