The Killing Expectations – Romance

I strongly disagree with the picture up above. This is the kind of thing that gets relationships, that could have been great, messed up and destroyed. Communication is a two-way process. The phone works BOTH ways. If he refuses to call, then you should try to…. Don’t go giving up on a relationship because of pride. Pride is good for absolutely NOTHING but killing. It will kill your friendship, it will kill your relationships, it WILL kill your connections.

The truth of the matter is; you can never really tell what someone is thinking, even if you knew them from before birth – as long as you are human. You are only ever presuming, and at times it IS possible for your presumptions to be correct, but there is ALWAYS the possibility of being wrong.

WE are human. We can make mistakes. If someone is doing something wrong, then call them out on it, don’t just sit there, sulk and kill yourself over something that the person involved has NO idea about. If you don't, then you’re just as responsible for the breakup/split or disconnect, in whatever relationship you’re in, as the other person.

Relations, Communication and Romance aren’t the fruition of a single person’s work. They involve work, dedication and commitment. Yeah – sometimes you have to even work harder than the other person at times. It happens. That’s why you need dedication. You need to put yourself in there and work it out if you believe in the relationship. Without that commitment, you’re just floating in the sea waiting for the other person to row the boat. You don’t want to row? Fine, it's ok – just ask the other person to.

When you DO call the person, be sure to correct them with love and empathy. Not an antagonistic attitude, you need to make them empathize with you, not put them on the defensive by attacking their ego. Yes - They SHOULD* be making more of an effort, but if they're not perfect it only means they've got room to improve. Before you decide to throw it all away, make sure you've put in enough effort as well as asking them to do the same as well.

The choice to be happy is YOURS and yours alone.

Don’t just sit there being uncommunicative and kill each other in the deadening silence. It isn't worth it. Be open. Be free. Caging yourself within the silence brings nothing but the deadening of your own heart. Let out the turmoil so it won't kill you on the inside - and on the outside as well.

Inspired by Obi Chibuike - He doesn't know it though :P

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