Monday, September 12, 2016

When You Need Me


"Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud." - Maya Angelou




You probably already know how it feels when you think someone is using you.

We've all got that person, who doesn't remember us till they need that one favour only we can help with... and even then, it feels they might only be contacting us because they couldn't find anyone else. Sometimes you end up feeling like the last resort.

....  Hurts, doesn't it?

Funny thing is, it happens to everyone.
Celebrities. Actors. Comedians. Musicians. The everyday people. Everyone has one time or the other where they feel like the last choice.

Maybe all they ever do, is send you links to watch their latest video, help them win a contest, or view up their latest mind-blowing blogpost. That's all they remember you for - and they don't even bother to say a simple "Hello"

Yeah....It's pretty easy to think that way. That the only use they find for you, is as an ever-loyal clicking machine.

I know how that feels. No calls. No chats. Not even a "Hi, How are you", at least, just once a year. I know I probably give that feeling to a lot of people with all the blog bcs I send on whatsapp and BBM. But here's the shocker. I can bet that you do the same thing too. There are people even you haven't talked to in years, and won't talk to till you need a reason. 

Maybe you don't believe in meaningless chatter. Maybe you don't want to bother them. Maybe you're too busy. Maybe you just know far too many people. Maybe you don't like talkingh much, or phone calls or chatting. We've all got a reason - it may be perfectly understandable or just a useless excuse. But even then, it's still a reason.


But, when you start thinking about it, you realize there might be a reason they can't accommodate for all the social expectations you have of them. Just like you can't always reach out to everyone you know regularly. At that moment they've contacted you - they need you, for whatever reason. It's up to you to answer or not. However... it's very important that you don't see yourself as a backdoor to someone elses' needs. 

So go ahead... click the link anyway. Share it. Help out. But avoid thinking people see you as a discardable stepping stone. You are a pillar. You're not the person they left behind, or their executive broadcast maid, you're not a faceless link clicker in a sea of obedient fingers. You're not a slave to their every call or "some guy" or "some girl". You hold all the power in your hands. You might as well use it.

You are a part of their success story, and whether or not they get there is up to you. One person can make all the difference.

One day, you might be put in a similar position, and you'll hope and pray for people to get your message or call and respond to it. It's happened to me a lot of times. That's the kind of wonderful world we live in. A merry go round world. When that day comes, whoever you are, I’ll be set. When you need me, I’ll be ready.


Let's Be Legendary.
Let's be what they need us to be - ready.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Do you really think you can be their for everyone that needs your help .

Jamike Ekennia-Ebeh said...

Ah. Everyone? I'm not omnipresent, omnipotent or omniscient. 😅😅

Lol. All I can do is promise to try.
When a call for me comes, I'll give an answer at least.

It could be "Yes", "I'll see what I can do" or anything else.

Linda Davies said...

I hate that when people call only to ask for help. I hardly call people to ask for help. More so people I hardly take time out to call.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm I see but when someone who haven't talked to you in a long time ask how you are .don't you think it their own way of asking for help.but u just answer am fine and you,without asking if their is any problem. People ask for help everyday but you just ignore them bcos of how they asked. I hope am making sense

Jamike Ekennia-Ebeh said...

I don't think you can magically discern that a person has a problem by them asking "how are you?"😅

However, courtesy usually demands that you ask in return how the person is faring and, from there, the person can tell you about his/her problem(s) if they want to.

If you don't speak out, it would ne unfair for you to expect people to know there is something wrong or something you need.

Theres a post here that elaborates on this.

http://therealjamike.blogspot.co.ke/2016/06/speak-out.html

Jamike Ekennia-Ebeh said...

I understand where you're coming from. That's why I wrote this article. Though it's not only about people asking for help.

But really, the thing is - if you can help without it taking much from you, it would be a good thing to do. I'm sure you don't interact with everyone you know 100% of the time. Maybe they simply remembered you because you're the person in the best position to help them at that time.

Irregardless of all that, what I'm saying is that we should try to "be the better person" in all situations. What do you gain from NOT helping?

If you feel the person, however, is taking undue advantage of you - then talk to them about it. Don't suffer in silence. Speak out. Let your voice be heard. You were not born for them. Be YOU.